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Q&A: How can I improve my relationship with my mother?
Question by aDriaNa: How can I improve my relationship with my mother?
Okay, before I start, I’d just like to say I really like my mom. But things she do really get on my nerves.
Im 14 almost 15, and this has been going on for almost 2 years. I think this might have to do with that I’m growing up and am exploring and thinking different ideas. Anyways, every single day we fight, and i’m getting very tired of this.
She calls me a ‘rebellious teenager’ to her friends. If I’m ‘rebellious’, then I’m not quite sure what other word are there for other 14/15 year old kids in my school. The only other teenagers she knows are all nerds. By nerd I mean they have absolutely no life and study and read all day. And then she compares me to them while hinting i shoudl be more like them. i like going out with friends, and doing sports. I like chatting on the phone, and texting people. I like going on Facebook or MSN. But she doesnt really approve of it, for what reason I dont know. I’m just having a social life.
Our approach to life is also different. Or rather, our approach on any single thing is different. Eg, she tells me to marry for money. Or date a guy ‘who can take care of you’, by which she means ‘rich’. Well Im not. I say, marry for love.
Finally (this is the part that pisses me off the most), we have absolutely nothing to talk about. All she talks about are academics. I know shes right to be concerned about my grades (as every parent), but she talks TOO MUCH. I have decent grades she just keeps going on about it, eg. telling me how someone got straight As, comparing me to her friends daughters.. etc. It’s like that, always. Like at dinner, or when we’re out for a meal or shopping (and she doesnt like shopping), she’d suddenly tell me how important grades our with her lectures and its impossible to stop her. This summer she’s trying to get me to go into some tutorial maths class. Summer to me is for enjoying.
Like besides grades there is absolutely nothing to talk about. She always, always (3 times a day) tell me how ‘competitive’ this world is and how hard it is to find a job. Now I appreciate her telling me this but she tells me this too much. It’s getting very annoying and sometimes I just cant keep my cool and shout at her. I know Im wrong but it is so frustrating. There is so much more to life than grades. Life’s too short.
She’s so closed minded and stubborn. She cant open to new ideas. Well I suppose we’re the exact opposites this way – Im more of a risk taker.
Shes always trying to change me I feel. But no one, nothing will ever make me change myself. She’s my mom – shouldnt she accept me for who I am?! I consider myself mature, as in knowing whats right and wrong. I dont drink. I dont smoke. I get good grades. I dont get into trouble at school. I have a healthy lifestyle. I feel I could be more appreciated. Lol.
Thanks for reading this btw (:
Best answer:
Answer by Erik
Okay i skimmed through it LOL i’m not reading all that, idc if i don’t get best answer. Ima make short as well.
Okay, my sister is 13, she’s the same. It’s just a phase. I went through it aswell, (I’m a guy 18 now) The relationship will get better as you mature. Don’t worry about not having any topics to talk about. If you didn’t grow up that close to your parents then it’s hard. That’s how i grew up and i find it akward to strike conversation with my parents, or even to say hello LOL (i know it’s weird)
Of course there’s times were conversation flows good or if we have to talk about something serious but if i need advice i find it hard to ask for help from my parents.
Good luck either way(:
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